Sometimes it seems like negativity is the hip perspective to have. Being cynical or darkly humorous about something is one thing, because if done well and with a sense of playfulness it’s pleasing and it’s status of ‘hip’ is valid. However, downright bitching over and over again while never offering any glimpse of cheer is taking negativity to the status of ‘I can’t even smile at a kitten picture now’.
I’ve come across blogs that are centered around having a good complain about whatever-got-up-their-arse-that-day. For a while, these make for pretty alright reading. When they write up a bitch-fest on how much so-and-so sucks or about how unfairly they’ve been treated by the milkman because he delivered a milk bottle with a scratched label, I read them with interest. Well, perhaps not the milk bottle thing. That would never get old.
After a while, though, continuously writing only about how shitty things are without ever offering a little tidbit of positivity gets tiring. And I get it, this is your personal platform to write about whatever you want! I completely respect that and would never ask you to change just for me. It’s just that after a while, I personally can’t take any more. I have to bail from my subscription so I don’t have to read one more horrible word about nothing. Or horrible words about horrible things over and over with no relief provided by offering hope or perspective or suggestions on how to make things better. Months worth of bitching makes me wonder how you can possibly bring yourself to get out of bed every morning with that perspective – surely if minor things spur you onto your computer to exert all this energy writing a scathing review, then your morning toast not cooking properly at the crust must send you into a frenzy.
I also have a sneaking suspicion that habitually sitting down to write about all the shitty things you can think of in a tone of ‘oh woe is me’, then you’re always going to feel poorly. You’re always going to notice the crap if you have made your blog an homage to it.
Of course, in writing this post, I myself become a complainer. The cycle claims another negativity victim! I don’t want to spout about life changing mantras because they never sound credible (even to me!) but I did come across a little saying a while ago, “Whatever you think, think the opposite.” I’m not a slogan kind of person, but this stayed with me and helped me move to the big city or generally have a better time in whatever situation. So, if you find yourself writing nothing but attacks every day, purposefully think the opposite and see if you can’t have a better day. You don’t have to become a yippy, perky, happy-happy but it is less tiring to be calm than constantly furious.
This post is not aimed at people suffering from a mental illness who aren’t able to easily change their outlooks when having a hard time.