I don’t want to lose touch with all you fantastic people. I would of course, forward a new blog’s address to you somehow if I should make one, but apparently I can no longer have this website due to disturbing comments. (links to 2 examples of comments)
Why must there be these kinds of humans forcing people to run from their thing. Forcing yet more women to hide in newer ways. Guess I can’t say much, I guess I have to be shut up and cloistered because the bully wins again.
Perhaps you, good follower, will see me again on here on day soon. Happy blogging and living to you all.
So much love to everyone on here except the person I’m talking about, cheeky wink,
J xxxxxxxx
As some of you were able to read on a later post, the solution I have come to is to have one post per week – nothing personal, no photos, references or big shares, just the topic and my opinion. I hope this will not disappoint too many of you, (like I have that much power haha) but when somebody hounds you online, there isn’t much you can do beyond excluding all personal inflection.
Thank you for being such wonderful followers, and I hope to meet more still. Welcome to the new Mitten’s Kittens.
If someone is harassing you, you can block them. Just look up WordPress help. It sucks when someone invades the safe world you’ve made for yourself. My blog is the 4th or 5th blog I’ve had because of comments etc.
Don’t give up, you’re a good writer
Cyberstalking is considered a felony depending on where you live. Too bad that WordPress doesn’t have those comment blockers like Youtube. If you really have to post infrequently for your protection, I get that. At least you’re not letting those trolls win by intimidating you out of existence. Take care!
What a sever drag. I was enjoying our exchanges. I am very sorry that some piece of shit lunatic has creeped you out to this degree. People like that are the reason I’m pursuing criminal law instead of more lucrative fields of practice. I’d like to lock up and forcibly castrate every bastard who’s ever taken away a woman’s peace of mind, threatened them, or otherwise hurt them. Anyway, don’t stay away for too long. Maybe write anonymously like I do, and without a photo of yourself.
If you ever come back, please let me know. I liked your work very much. And remember the whiskey-and-sobbing diet. Believe me. It works.
Be safe, and prosperous.
Yours in Contemplation,
Kierkegaard
Me too! And thank you, that’s a good way to describe them haha. I agree about those kinds of men. A woman’s peace of mind is imperative to her quality of life just like any man, and a lot of men don’t realise how easily it can be disrupted by these kinds of creeps. You never know what they could do when they live near you.
I’ve just removed all personal posts and pictures of myself, and will be writing without any personal references from now on. I’m thinking 1 weekly post, just opinion pieces and book reviews. Nothing from my everyday life. If I create a more personal blog, you’ll have a new follower in your count.
Thank you.
Awww sweets sorry you’ve had to go through this, People are ugly and mean. You’re awesome and I love your blog. xox
Thank you, and they really really are. This is what I get for being polite a couple of times! Seems better just to be rude sometimes.
Thank you so much.
Sucks that the person commenting is making you feel like you have to leave. The person must love being a troll. Hope you get a new blog or come back here sometime. Your posts make me laugh.
Thank you very much!
Who’s posts will I now giggle at and relate to – especially when it comes to plant killing? I hope you are back up and blogging soon. But if this guy finds you again, just ignore him. He’ll get bored if he gets no response from you as that is all he really wants.
But all the best! Hopefully find you around here again soon
Haha ahh plant killing.. Everybody just seems too good at it.
I hope he gets bored too. Thank you and you’ll see me if I begin again
I’ll miss your posts. Good luck with everything.
Thank you very much!
Hate to see you go! But blog creepers suck. Hope to find you again, soon. Cheers!
Thank you! They really do. I’ll be sure to come to your blog again if I start a new one
I’m really sad to see you go as I’ve thoroughly enjoyed reading your fantastic blog for a while now; it’s one of my favorites. Hope that obnoxious person disappears and you come back soon!
Me too, me too indeed! You’ve also become one of my favourites.
It’s a real shame you have to go, I really enjoy reading your writing, you certainly have a way with words
Hope to spot you again in the future!
Thank you very much! And yes, you definitely will if you keep an eye on your follower notifications!
(I’m saying this to everyone assuming they will actually be glad to see a new blog by me, too bad if someone where only being polite haha) It’s been great getting to meet lovely bloggers like yourself
I’m sorry to hear you’re being pushed off wordpress by someone. I hope to see you around soon, I always enjoy reading your blog posts!
Thank you very much! I have enjoyed writing them immensely. Which is why it’s so annoying to be pushed off. Thank you
So sorry to see you go. Cyberstalking is a horrible experience. I happened to me many moons ago. I hope you re-invent your blog self and try again.
Thank you. It’s such an unsettling circumstance. People can say whatever they want online and who knows what they will do in real life if things don’t go their way. It’s best to just disappear from their knowledge so they forget you, I think. Hopefully.
Oh no way! I love my Aussie friends! Have you considered self hosting where yo can ban and control commenting? I am so sorry to hear this Jessica, I will miss you my friend. Be well in your beautiful country.
I have it currently set so that this person’s comments go straight to the spam box, but they just keep on writing them and of course I check them every now and then (there’s usually a couple of normal ones from nice people) but wordpress doesn’t over a block button unfortunately.
Thank you, you too. If I begin again, you’ll have a follow from me.
Aww thank you! Your so nice. I hope this arse leaves you alone Jessica, what a nutter. I hope you don’t end up having to go to the authorities with this garbage. Be well my friend.
Jess, I’m so sad and so sorry some bogan (never get to use that word over here) is ruining this for you. Make sure you stay in touch, you’re one of my ‘I’ve never met them’ friends
haha, that’s a shame – bogan can be so appropriate at times.
You’ll definitely get a follow from me if I begin a new one. Just check your follow notifications and maybe you’ll know which one is me.
Don’t let the bully have power over you.. I’ve had a female stalker (I know, right) through 3 blogs.. Now I just ignore and move along.. I spam then trash their comments..I’m really sorry someone is so low on themselves they feel the need to step on you.. give yourself a few days to think about it
Gosh, she sounds very keen! 3 blogs! I have had to delete my twitter account as they were always getting through my blocking them there. People are so dedicated, aren’t they? Haha.
I’ve decided to just maybe do a weekly post on here – nothing personal at all, just more of my opinion type pieces and book reviews etc. And I’ll just continue to spam them! Perhaps with nothing personal to find out about me, they’ll get bored.
Thank you.
Jess, can you not just block him? Label him as spam and you don’t have to read anything he says?
There are trolls out there, real and spammy, but they are just bullies. Publish his name, highlight his comments and say why you think he is so awful.
We can then avoid him too… and serve him right.
I am so sorry you are going to disappear.
Very best wishes to you.
I’d love to just publish his name and links to his sites sometimes! Just to say ‘hey, we all see you, and we all say no.’
Thank you.
I’ll definitely follow you from a new blog if I make one
Your blog is always a joy to read! Really unfair that you can’t continue your blog, hope you start writing somewhere new soon! x
You will hear from me if I do! Thank you, x
Your very welcome!
and thank you! x
You shouldn’t listen to any low people who make people feel bad for living. Such people don’t deserve any kind of attention. They are just pathetic losers. I hope you will be back soon xxx
Thank you Anouska! Me too. xx
Sorry you have to do this, Jess. I enjoy your blog. I get angry when I see people get bullied. It always reminds me of that video from a couple of years ago where the kid just snapped and picked up his tormentor and threw him on the ground. Although violence isn’t the answer it makes you want fist-pump and scream “YES!”
You are the stronger one, Jess. I’d recommend flagging his comments as spam or blocking him, not responding, unapproving his comments, etc. A virtual “not listening, not listening!”. I know it’s tough if he lives near you.
Recommended song lyrics to read: Cher Lloyd’s Swagger Jagger, Little Mix’s Wings. (Do I overhear my daughters music too much, maybe?)
Good Luck, stay strong.
I loved that video!
His comments are all flagged as are all variations of his name and email accounts, but the spam box always has a new one sitting there and argh, it’s not enough spamming the comments when I know they’re still being written. Why he still writes them when I never approve them I don’t understand…
Thank you
Such a shame – very sorry to hear that.
Thank you, it’s silly how attached I’ve become to this blog but it really is a shame I can’t blog on it as freely as before.
Very, very sorry to hear this. Can it not be sorted out with WordPress or PC Plod or even send a couple of the local `lads` around for a `quiet` word? Perhaps a blog without your name and photo. . . I do enjoy your posts and you nominated me for`Blog of the Year` – thank you again for that. You have a great style of writing and a lively interest in a myriad of subjects. Please contact me when you start again.
PS Out of my three suggestions above I think a personal visit from the lads would be most effective. . .
It is impossible to block someone on wordpress sadly. I could switch my whole blog to private but meeting new followers will become difficult. It may be something I have to do though.
Haha, yes, I wish things could be cleared up that way.
I will definitely be contacting you, keep an eye on your follow notifications
Things can be sorted that way – you obviously mix in the `wrong` circles. . .
Sorry to hear this, I really enjoy reading your blog!
I enjoy reading yours too, I’ve come across some awesome blogs!
That’s extra strange! Honestly, I’m surprised I’ve had no death threats for the stuff I write about; actually, the worst I had was a few stupid comments on my FP post, but that’s all – no emails, no nasty comments, nothing like that. Everything you write on is usually so tame? Well, good bye! haha. It’s been fun reading pockets of your mind.
Well, it’s not really anything I write about but rather how one particular person reads the posts. It’s one person from my home town who leaves disturbing comments and has now apparently seen me in public. He’s probably reading this since he reads everyone’s comments to me. Damn, I’m so obvious. There are links in ‘this isn’t even everything’ to the two comments from them that I let be posted onto the blog if your keen for it to be cleared up.
I’ll probably stick around out of bizarre attachment to this blog. But I really can’t. I’ll catch you on the flip side. It’s sunnier there.
Your blog is wonderful, by the way.
ERgh, strangeness!
I can’t say that I understand why you’d need to get rid of your blog because of this, but I’m sure you’ve your reasons. If it gets totally out of hand, stalking’s easily made out. One of the only thing’s a law degree has come in handy for, knowing your ridiculous rights under the criminal code. And thanks.
I’ll probably occupy this humansareweird spot for a little while, so if you do make another one, be in touch!
You are not “obvious” you are a writer and remember what writers do? They write. It is their right. The domestic violence act of 2008 in Australia clearly states it is unlawful for an individuation to do anything that makes another individuation feel unsafe or bullied in any way. This includes posting on the Internet, verbal and physically intimidating behaviour. I suggest a solicitors letter to Mr Creepo requesting he exit your life or an intervention order will be served to him with his dinner in jail. Guess what? His behaviour is unlawful. from your old Aunt in Melbourne.
Thank you. And it’s true – I’m a writer, I feel compelled to write and I will write about injustice in my own life (online or not).
I hadn’t heard of that act, but thank you for bringing it to my attention. I’ve always assumed that there is no help available for people unless the bully has made an actual threat – in reality we all know that there doesn’t need to be a direct threat for there to be trouble…
Thank you very much! I’m hoping this is the end of him. I haven’t had a comment in days but if he posts any more then I will post them for everyone to see.
Oh dear, oh dear, oh dear oh dear. Keep writing dear, you have a beautiful mind and God has given you the ability to connect to people via the pen.
Thank you very much. You’re definitely on my list of people I must let know if I make a new one.
Annoying isn’t it, what one man from your home town can do with just online comments.
Anything that gains popularity will inevitably attract trolls. They want to be weird and creepy for attention.
That being said I love reading your posts! I’m very sorry the stupidity of a few are bringing you down
It’s more the creepy and disturbing comments from one person who lives in my home town. So you can see how it’s not so much a troll but a threat. They’re probably reading all of this, sigh.
Thanks so much! I really appreciate that, I’ll let you know if I make a new blog
I can only assume that the randoms liking this post aren’t actually reading it. This tickles me. You weirdos.
Interesting comment. I didn’t`like` because I didn’t like!
Sorry to hear that some blogger-twats are pushing you to leave WordPress. Hope you come back soon!
Thank you